I hear SO many excuses every single day from women who are either misinformed about what Boudoir actually is, or just really nervous about doing a session. EVERYONE is nervous when they first walk through my door. I hear “I’m so nervous. This is my first time doing anything like this” from almost every single client. It’s totally normal to be nervous, but you need to trust me when I say that after two minutes into the session, you will be having so much FUN and you’ll forget that you were ever nervous. Spending an hour with our hair and makeup artist before the session really helps calm the nerves as well, making you feel pampered and beautiful!!
The mind is a powerful tool, and if used incorrectly you can talk yourself out of a really great experience. Boudoir is meant to be liberating, to make you feel beautiful, sexy, and confident (and perhaps give that special someone in your life some really great images of yourself). But in reality, the session is all about YOU, not the person receiving the end product.
Here are the top FIVE lamest excuses I hear about why a potential client feels they “can’t” do a Boudoir Session:
1. I need to lose a few pounds/get in shape first
Ok, the reality is this: you may NEVER lose those pounds and you’re just looking for an excuse. I am a PROFESSIONAL. I know how to pose you and light you to make you look your best. We do glamour retouching on all of our images to make you look your very best, without looking like someone you’re not. I have photographed hundreds of women of all ages and sizes. Believe me when I say you’re perfect just the way you are!
2. I have nothing to wear
I always say one of the staples to bring is a matching bra and panty …. that’s pretty easy, right? While you may not have anything in your wardrobe, there are many affordable places to buy super cute lingerie (Lane Bryant, TJ Maxx, JC Pennys, Gordman’s, Charlotte Ruse, and even Sears… I know a women who bought a gorgeous corset for only $15 at Sears!). You really don’t have to spend a lot on the outfits, and they don’t have to be extravagant if you don’t want them to be. You can even bring his favorite shirt, sports jersey, work gear, or pajama bottoms!!
3. I don’t know how to look sexy or what to do
That is why you hire ME. I will guide you through the entire session, telling you exactly how to position yourself, where to look, what to do with your hands, how to tip your head, etc! You don’t have to worry about a thing!! I am your coach and your cheerleader throughout the entire session. I want you to have a FUN time and enjoy your experience, as well as love your images!!
4. I’m not comfortable walking around naked in front of a stranger
You really don’t have to get naked!! As I mentioned before, I have photographed hundreds of women of all shapes, sizes, and ages. I have seen it all, quite literally. I am NOT going to judge you or make you feel uncomfortable. We will only do what is within your comfort zone. If you want to do some poses with implied nudity or full nudity, I will accommodate that, but it is NOT required!
5. I don’t want anyone else to see these images
Who you show your images to is YOUR business! We would be thrilled to post an image to our Facebook page or blog to help show other prospective clients our work, however, if you are uncomfortable with that we will absolutely respect your privacy and requests. I do have to say, once clients see their images and how beautiful they are, they are usually comfortable with us using one or two 🙂 and they usually show all their girlfriends as well!!
I hope that this list has helped you open up your mind about a Boudoir Session. They really, truly are a lot of FUN and you will get so much out of the experience! Boudoir is my absolute favorite session to photograph, it is SO rewarding to get emails from clients who LOVE their images…. especially the ones who are picky and critical of themselves and claim that they “never” like their photos!!! I promise you, you will have a BLAST during your session and you will LOVE your images!!! So what are you waiting for?!
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