Scott County MN VOTE NO Launch Party, by Amy Zellmer

Jul• 13•12

If you don’t know my story and WHY I am VOTING NO on the ammendment, you can read it HERE. But in a nutshell: my sister is a lesbian. She has been with her loving partner for 17 years. I love them both more than words can describe. I myself am straight, but believe two people that love each other should be allowed to be married. I myself have had the opportunity to marry ~ and divorce ~ twice. Plus I was engaged a third time in there. All because I am straight and have the “right” to get married. My sister and her partner have been in a loving, committed relationship for over 17 years. Ha! That’s longer than all of my relationships combined. But because they are gay, they don’t have the ability to get married and all the advantages and opportunities that it opens up for them.

For instance: Right now if my sister’s partner was in an ICU, they would be able to deny my sister the right to visit her ~ because she’s not immediate family. Yes, my sister has power of attorney and they have health care directives, but if the hospital or her partner’s family wanted to be difficult, they could deny her being in the room with her partner. Unless they work for an employer that allows “domestic partnership” they are not able to be on one another’s insurance plans. They are not able to file taxes together, and the list goes on.

It frustrates me to no end that people get their undies in a bundle over this marriage issue. Stating we have to save the “sanctity of marriage“. Pahleeeeze. What sanctity of marriage? I’ve been divorced ~ TWICE. And what happened to the seperation of church and state?? Seems to me the only “sanctity” issues we have are related to religion. And honestly, marriage doesn’t have one thing to do with religion. You don’t have to be religious to get married just straight, heterosexual, breeders.

Ok, yes I am being cynical, but I am trying to make a point here. I am trying to open people’s eyes to the fact that two people in love should be allowed to get married. Period. End of story. I don’t give a flying fudgecicle if they’re straight, gay, or undecided. If they love each, then so be it. Marriage is NOT an issue of sexual orientation, it is NOT an issue of politics, it is NOT an issue of religion. Marriage is an issue of LOVE. Two people in love.

What I learned last night at the Scott County VOTES NO launch party: if the election were tomorrow, we would not win. We are SO close, but not quite there yet. We need to convince approx. 140,000 Minnesotans to VOTE NO on the ammendment.  The easiest way to engage that conversation is to ask your friends, family, coworkers who they plan to vote. Ask them to share “why” if they are planning to vote yes on the ammendment (some believe that voting YES is actually the way you’re supposed to vote if you WANT gay marriage because of the way it is worded….. we need to educate these people that it is a NO vote). Tell them “thank you for sharing your story. Now can I tell you mine?” and give them a heart felt story of why you are choosing to vote NO (like mine above). DO NOT: tell them they are wrong, they are being prejudice, or badger them, get mad, or yell. We are learning from the THIRTY STATES THAT FAILED that we need to give people heart felt stories to get them to change their minds. WE CAN DO THIS MN!!

PLEASE, I beg you, VOTE NO on the marriage ammendment this November. Let Minnesota be the first state to shoot it down!!! 

I am so proud of you Mayor Brad Tabke for giving a wonderful, heartfelt speech last night. Even though other Mayor’s and politicians have encouraged you to not take an opinion on the matter because you are supposed to be non-partisan. But you hit it on the head, marriage IS non-partisan. Marriage IS LOVE!!! I am proud to have you as my Mayor, and to call you a friend 🙂

Also, I want to give Christopher Straub a shout-out. He was sporting his beautiful tshirt last night, and if you would like to order one you can go to his webiste and order. He is giving half the proceeds back to MN United For All Families.

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  1. callie says:

    I love this article. My best friend and stylistic has been living with and loving his partner for 22years. The people always thumping the Bible about homosexuality do not understand these laws were written in Ancient Rome were sex for both sexes was used as a release. People are born hay,straight,bi,or trans gender however the thumpers are always touting sin. Well sex out of wedlock made the top ten laws of God on all three major world religons. So they ate arguing against themselves. Every person has the right to a family and a marriage. I go shrewd Amy that reliving should be taken out of the airgument some are not religious at all and church models are failing around the world for thier failure to keep up preach love one another and clran thier own back yard before messing in others. I will keep fighting for human rights the right for all humans to be equal indeterminate the law. And may God bless those touting hate in vain. Callie.

  2. “Marriage is NOT an issue of sexual orientation, it is NOT an issue of politics, it is NOT an issue of religion. Marriage is an issue of LOVE. Two people in love.”

    Couldn’t have said it better myself, and I agree with you!

  3. Bri Saussy says:

    Beautiful Amy! Thanks for sharing your personal story and views on this. I think its high time that any loving and responsible couple get to have the privilege of marrying and being legally connected to each other–but even for those who don’t you raise and important question about the sanctity of marriage and what exactly that means!

  4. Melanie says:

    I completely agree! Love is love, and shouldn’t be judged or restricted by the state between two adults above the age of consent. I’m very proud to say that I will be photographing the wedding for two gay friends when they marry next year, with or without the state’s consent. It’s just silly to deny the right to visit your partner in the hospital because it’s not a “traditional” marriage. Some gay relationships are much more stable & loving than traditional relationships, especially with the divorce rate in our country.

  5. Inga Deksne says:

    Thanks for sharing Amy! You are so right, Love is Love! It seems so simple and yet there are so many people who are against gay marriages because it doesn’t seem right!
    I witnessed that people in gay relationship have more loving and caring feeling towards each other than traditional couples.
    I’m looking forward to reading your story in November where you could share good news that people voted “No!”

  6. This is a great article. I totally agree that the only thing that matters in marriage is commitment and love. It’s so weird to me that people even care enough to fight for it to NOT happen. It wouldn’t even affect them in any way. I could go on and one but, to sum it up, this needs to change!

  7. Jessica says:

    So true. This issue always makes me wonder, “who’s it gonna hurt if gay people get married?” I mean really — does it stop anyone else from marrying? Does it deplete some mysterious marriage well? It’s just strange. Good luck with the Amendment in MN. Everyone should have the right to choose marriage (or not).